The war divided our lives into "before" and "after". Many of us can't even believe when you look at the photo in the "before" archive that it was so simple, peaceful, kind of routine and "steamy". How to learn to live in these realities. How to do it and find the strength to live on.
Before the war, each of us had a certain life plan, goal, direction of movement in the future. And now it's not our fault, our life "returned" not according to plan and the navigator of life asks us to "re-pave" a new route. And the main condition of the new route is "security", at least conditional. Someone feels safe at home, someone goes to other regions and countries for security. And this is absolutely normal: everyone has their own life circumstances, experience, inner world, level of anxiety, stress resistance, etc.
Therefore, your choice of security location should be the right one for you. It's worth thinking about how you feel, not someone else.
SO WE ARE CONDITIONALLY SAFE, HOW TO LIVE ON? WHERE TO START AND HOW TO CONTINUE?
- Stop looking back at the way things used to be. We stop thinking about how it could be, spending energy on things we cannot change. Embrace the new reality.
- Start moving life. We need a resource to move. Therefore, our daily priority at this time is our inner state. Scan yourself throughout the day. Ask yourself the question: "What do I feel?" Live your emotions, don't put them off for later, don't suppress them. Live and let go, breathe and let go. Then ask yourself: "What can I do now to get better?" A simple answer will come - do it. You can help others only after you help yourself.
- Wherever possible, keep doing what you were doing before.
- Keep in touch with loved ones, do not isolate yourself.
- Remember what was the source of the resource in the "before" period and is available now. Allow yourself to do it without guilt.
- Rest is not a wish, but our duty in today's conditions.
- Regular physical activity – at least minimally increases the resource, removes negative emotions.
- Simplify everything that can be simplified.
- Go into short-term planning mode - a day, a week. Make a plan for the next day, even if it's the usual routine activities. It is a support, a minimum conditional certainty in the ocean of global uncertainty. Don't waste your energy thinking about what will happen in six months or a year, because conditions change almost every hour.
- Reduce the amount of consumed information several times, the brain has been overloaded with incoming information and analysis of possible options for the development of events in the last 2 months.
- Create a focus on what we can influence and trust the Universe, the Creator, higher powers. And not on what we cannot influence.
- Focus on what is important to you personally "here and now".
- Focus on what you have, not what you've lost.
- Learn something new every day (a foreign language, a new specialty, a field that has interested you for a long time, or expanding information in the field in which you realize yourself at the moment).
- Increase self-esteem: praise yourself for what happened today; do not criticize, but support; remember how you managed to cope with stressful situations in the past - this will encourage, become a resource and help now.
- Conduct an audit of resources, ask yourself the question: "What do I have now and how can it be used most effectively?"
- Allow yourself an energy-saving mode: do everything not at full strength, but dosed and regularly.
We do not know how long the war will last and no one can promise us that the end is soon. In addition to survival, we need to preserve ourselves as much as possible, so that when the war ends, we will be capable, adequate, with a fighting spirit, a desire to live and create for the good of Ukraine.
Take care of yourself, take care of your health and your inner world in order to be able to help the outer world. Life cannot be put on hold. It must be lived every moment. So do what you can. With what you have. In these circumstances, believe in yourself and the best option for solving the war.
