The war changed the life of every Ukrainian, forced to decide what is the main and what is secondary in life. We all have to adapt to circumstances that we could not even imagine before. During the war, all personal problems are brought to the fore, people experience profound crises and react differently to stressful situations. Someone's level of anxiety has barely increased, and another person is already panicking. This affects all areas of life, including relationships with loved ones. Many people today are forced to live under the same roof with relatives or friends whom they used to see only on holidays. In these conditions, it is sometimes difficult to build normal communication, show tolerance and understanding, which can lead to conflicts.
What to do and how not to lose a relationship?
● Divide the space. You should have your own place where you can work, rest, and be alone. This will reduce anxiety, create some stability and responsibility.
● Divide responsibilities: who will work, clean, cook, etc.
● Try to support each other. Talk about the importance of your loved one, notice what each of you does, be kinder to each other. It is important not just to say "thank you for washing the dishes...", but to turn this action into a positive trait: "thank you for your concern...".
● Pay attention to each other. Think about which of the activities available now bring you pleasure (walking, watching a movie, playing a board game, etc.).
● Being able to talk about your emotions is very helpful in a relationship. Ask loved ones about their feelings and do not argue with them, do not evaluate, do not comfort, but just listen. In this way, you give the person the opportunity to express himself and feel that he is not alone, that his feelings remain his experience. This allows you to build healthy boundaries.
●Give vent to your emotions, which arise not on loved ones, but on the outside: cry, sing, do sports, etc.
● Maintain your usual lifestyle in new conditions as much as possible: work, communicate, read, organize joint meetings, etc.
